the most rewarding job, hardest job ever…..
20 Nov 2011 Leave a Comment
the most rewarding job, hardest job ever…..
by Lana Wink on Friday, April 8, 2011 at 8:03am
to all the sweet mommies raising their babies, i know you are exhausted, you have no time for yourself, you don’t feel pretty, you cant remember anything of importance…..remember this….you are beautiful, the job is the best job, the reward is long term, & the arms that wrap around you are precious, those babies will wound your heart, you give all you have. you are superwoman…but it will be all worth it…the time you spend with your child is never wasted 
and to all of the daddies that are having to be mommies…you will never understand how important the time you give to your children mean to them…children need you…oh yeah, so do teenagers….BE THERE for them! take the time now b4 it becomes too late to recapture the precious memories…
make a memory, make a date nite with ur kid, work on a project together (with a smile on ur face), laugh with your kids!
love them where they are at and coach them thru life…it aint easy!
and pray a whole lot!!!!
CHANCES
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by Lana Wink on Saturday, May 7, 2011 at 10:23pm
TO MY CHILDREN….it wasn’t by chance that you were designed for me (sorry of all the times I messed up) you have forgiven my mistakes along life’s journey…you have made me laugh til I cry…you make me smile when life is hard, you have brought joy & laughter into my life even when I had to wonder…what the heck you were thinkin when you did that one…lol…
IF I had not been able to be your mother, my life would have been so boring and lonely without all of the craziness in it…so I am happy to say “Happy Mother’s Day to all of you mothers”…but today is my day to reflect on being a mom of three wonderful kids…I am so proud of each of you Amber, Alayna & Dakota…I love being your mom (lol, most of the time)…giggles…and even to all of my youth kids that allowed me to be a part of your life…YOU ALL allowed me to be a huge part of your life as well…again I say thanks for the giggles, smiles, laughter and friendships…FOREVER in my heart!
hope you like….the song… 
The world did not end on May 21st, 2011…it just rebooted
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end of the world…new day for us…i got left behind…
by Lana Wink on Sunday, May 22, 2011 at 10:38am
The world did not end on May 21st, 2011…it just rebooted. Please be sure your security software is up to date. Run a full scan of your life and remove any malicious files which may be damaging your joy, stealing your hope, or slowing down your blessings. If you need more instructions, please refer to the users manual in the Bible, readily available or put your hands together, bow your head and contact tech support! ~fitting for all of us who were left behind~
JUST STAY
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JUST STAY
by Lana Wink on Friday, May 27, 2011 at 8:37pm
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A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.
“Your son is here,” she said to the old man.
She had to repeat the words several times before the patient’s eyes opened.
Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man’s limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.
The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man’s hand and offering him words of loveand strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile.
He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital – the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.
Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.
Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.
Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her.
“Who was that man?” he asked.
The nurse was startled, “He was your father,” she answered.
“No, he wasn’t,” the Marine replied. “I never saw him before in my life.”
“Then why didn’t you say something when I took you to him?”
“I knew right away there had been a mistake,
but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn’t here.
When I realized that he was too sick to tell
whether or not I was his son,
knowing how much he needed me, I stayed.”
I came here tonight to find a Mr. William Grey.
His Son was Killed in Iraq today, and I was sent to
inform him. What was this Gentleman’s Name?
The Nurse with Tears in Her Eyes Answered,
Mr. William Grey………….
The next time someone needs you … just be there. Stay.
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GOD BLESS YOU!
HAVE A GREAT DAY AND BLESS SOMEONE ELSE IN SOME LITTLE WAY TODAY!
Oil for Your Lamp/excerpt~by Lisa Hammond and BJ Gallagher (fb repost)
20 Nov 2011 Leave a Comment
Oil for Your Lamp/excerpt….so true!!
by Lana Wink on Sunday, June 12, 2011 at 9:36am
An excerpt from
Oil for Your Lamp
by Lisa Hammond and BJ Gallagher Virtually every woman we know has the same problem – she knows what’s good for her, but she often doesn’t do it. She knows she should eat less and exercise more, but still she doesn’t make healthy choices. She knows she needs to spend her time and money more effectively, but good time and money management elude her. She finds herself always putting others first, while neglecting her own needs and wants. She doesn’t get enough rest or sleep and her endless to-do list hangs overhead like the sword of Damocles. As our friend Brenda Knight laments frequently, “Why am I always riding in the back of my own bus?”
We don’t do the things we know are good for us because we are so busy taking care of others that we neglect ourselves. The problem isn’t lack of information – we have plenty of information about the importance of sleep, healthy foods, and exercise. The problem is how we prioritize our lives.
Psychologists tell us that some people are inner-directed and some are other-directed. That is, some people focus on their own internal guidance system for making choices about how to spend their time and energy. Their own self-interest ranks very high on their list of priorities. “What’s best for me?” is a key guiding principle in determining where they focus their attention and how they make day-to-day decisions.
And some people are other-directed, which means that their primary focus is external, not internal. They are primarily concerned with relationships, especially people they care about. “How can I help others?” is a key question in how they spend their time and energy. Building and nurturing relationships with loved ones, family, friends, neighbors, and coworkers is the guiding principle in their lives.
Research indicates that, in general, men tend to be more inner-directed, while women tend to be more other-directed. There are exceptions, of course, but as a group, men are focused on themselves while women are focused on other people. Men like to build things while women like to build relationships.
This difference in psychological orientation goes a long way toward helping us understand why we women often do such a poor job of taking care of ourselves. We run around filling others’ lamps with oil, but forget to fill our own lamps first. Then we wonder why we’re often exhausted, frazzled, stressed-out, anxious and/or depressed!
repost from my fb from june 2011 b4 mom died
20 Nov 2011 Leave a Comment
In HIS arms.
by Lana Wink on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 at 4:20pm
I am at the foot of my mother’s bed; as I watch her struggle for each breath left. I watch closely to see her chest rise and fall. I see the expressions on her face as she fights to stay with us. When she is awake, she watches the digital frame of her loved ones pass by repeatedly. I see the struggle for her as she holds onto the little bit of life she has to share with us.
Mom, what a great representative of Christ’s love and devotion you have shown to your daughters, friends and grandchildren. You have shown grace to those who did not deserve it and love to those who would not return it. Forgiveness you have given freely. You stood as a good soldier should. Mom, I know you can’t read this but maybe somewhere and somehow…someone else will strive just a little harder to be a good mother, sister, friend and daughter to their own family because of what I write about you.
I have watched you struggle through the fight to survive on your own. You remained faithful to the end. You reached out to those who would not take your hand and I watched that last hope of you wanting to hear the words and heal the wounds….I LOVE YOU! to which there were none spoken in return. Mom, I love you…
I will live to love those who I can and I will do as you did learn to let the rest go. As Christ does everyday….some will make choices to walk away and be untouched by a wonderful person. I believe though, they will still remember the one that loved them when they could not return love in the same way.
I hope that one day people will see that kind word spoken and a loving touch can change every individual on this earth. It is a choice that each of us make everyday. It is but one life we live….we will not pass this way again. For that we each make a legacy of our own.
As a daughter of yours, I am grateful that I had YOU for a mom to show me how to love the ones who can’t love you back…that is as Christ-like as I know. TO LOVE ANYWAY!!!
Mom, you are dearly loved.
just a repost from my FB…
20 Nov 2011 Leave a Comment
from this is what God wants you to know…i liked it & copied it…to share….keep it going!!
by Lana Wink on Thursday, July 7, 2011 at 9:03am
“What you are most afraid of is where your greatest rewards are. If all you had to do was wish for something and you would have it, life would be pretty boring, wouldn’t it? God placed barriers between us and what we want, so we can enjoy interesting and satisfying lives. God hid our biggest rewards behind the highest barriers – our deepest fears. God wants us to face our fears, and hold ground in their presence, and let them go, and that’s how we get out biggest rewards. What are you most afraid of? Say it, just start by saying it.”
~My Good Friend Tony~
20 Nov 2011 Leave a Comment
My friend…Tony Warner leaves quietly…so not like you
….love and miss you! Hugs forever!!
MY heart is heavy & my eyes won’t stop crying…I’m gonna miss my friend Tony Warner…a few years ago…I was going thru the roughest time of my life when I got a friend request stating “Is this the Lana I use to take home from school everyday”…I was so excited to hear he was alive…just a few days ago we chatted & these were my last words to Tony…”Just to let you know…there are lots of people that love you…and it was obvious by seeing the posts on your wall….LOVE always! NEVER doubt that ur friends love ya!” ….our last words were “I love you”…”I love you too” and you said “Sorry to hear about your mom”….we just were the kind of friends that you always know will be there for you…ALWAYS!! I still remember the last time ya came to the house..always watching over me, trying to protect me still (so like you)…and to blow that man’s hard *** reputation…Tony was a believer…but he would’ve never let anyone know it…LOL! He would tell me “Lana, don’t preach to me, lol” yet he would turn that conversation back to God anyway…funny how God always wins, we talked about God stuff often, so many conversations but never enough time for us to catch up completely, our all nite conversations, ha! how many times he fell asleep on me but I knew he would be back, (darn sleep apnea)….he once said, “Lana, ya know what I miss most…my momma’s cooking and her hugs”…R.I.P. my friend…I am so gonna miss YOU!!!
(((HUGS FOREVER!!!))) PEACE AT LAST!…I know you’re watching over us all….that’s just how you do it! muah!
Walking Mom Home July 21, 2011
20 Nov 2011 Leave a Comment
Today i sat with mom & shared some old songs with her. when we were younger, mom played the piano & sang with us. there was one song that we always sang bcuz it reminded mom of her own mother who suffered with long term cancer. it is the one i posted today…”mama’s teaching angels how to sing”..with that song playing today, mom lifted her head from her pillow & leaned forward twice & lifted her left hand that was holding onto mine. i said, “mom if you see “ma ma & pa pa” (her parents) go give them some loving from us & go see the 4 grandchildren you have never gotten to see or play with…go mom”…then she glanced at me with one eye opened…looked the other way…and began to loose her grip on my hand…I wasn’t sure she was leaving…(we have thot that several times in this battle & mom always bounced back)….not this time…i went to finish funeral arrangements in Hendersonville tonite….and while I was gone mom slipped away into eternity with many at her side who love her, my sister, friends and my father all there.
mom did not loose her battle thru cancer…she WON her battle with cancer….she faught a good long fight for 8 months and how does anyone lose if their resting place is heaven with family members waiting on the other side? …no loss …we will so miss “MOM T”
…even with her not speaking, one of her nurses today said…”her spirit shines thru even tho she can not speak..you can see it in her eyes”….no greater compliment needed…that is what we are suppose to do…IS TO BE A REFLECTION OF CHRIST…TO BE AN EXTENSION OF HIM…nothing more…its really not about us or “our” suffering…its about him shining thru us when we can not do it anymore, its about him growing us into more than we could ever imagine, im still pretty numb but i know i am stronger for going thru “all” of the past struggles.
mom did not have pain or suffer towards the end…she just took a few shallow breaths and it was done…PRAISE GOD…for answered prayers!!!! Mom has had such a painful life..we just wanted to see her leave in peace…and God was merciful to her and to us in her passing…peaceful without struggle or pain.
thank you all so very very much for being a friend, listening to our craziness of trying to care for someone long term…its gonna take me awhile to figure out what is next…somewhere i lost me again…i am so very blessed to have you all and many others who have held us up when we could not do it by ourselves anymore…thankful….love you all so very very much…
help me to be…
31 Mar 2011 Leave a Comment
Help me today Lord to be the person you want me to be. Allow me to be the sun when the clouds close around those I meet today…help me to fight for those I believe in and love or who can not fight for themselves…help me to hold the hand of the hurting and guide them through the minutes they are with me…help me not judge those who judge me harshly…help me Lord not to be perfect but to be real, honest and trustworthy in all things…for I am human and I am not mine but yours as a tool on this earth to better the place in which we all live…help US all to man up for our time and to show grace and mercy to those who need to feel it and to see it…help US all to live better lives while we can so we won’t have so many regrets later…help US to give more and take less…nothing compares to your love…help love to pour OUT OF US into others…help US to impact those we meet, even if it is only 5 to 10 minutes…we still can leave a mark..in 30 seconds or less, a decision is made about US…so go IMPACT someone’s life today, tomorrow, next week, next month…right now…GO
